Mary wished to say something very sensible, but knew not how. I believe, your’s situation is not very different from Mary. I mean, you want to say something, but not able to find the right words at the right time. But now the question arises why and also who is Mary?
Mary is third of the five Bennet Sisters from Jane Austen’s Pride & Prejudice. She is portrayed as a well read, have good hands on piano and somewhat intelligent than her sisters. But according to her father Mr Bennet and so does Mr Darcy, she is a silly creature like her two junior sisters Lydia and Kitty, despite of her general perception i.e. her intelligence.
The problem with Mary and also you is that you are too confused and think superior of yourself. I mean you take a hell lot of time before making any decision. Consider only yourself right and don’t like to take any help from others. Meanwhile you lose the game, and blame it on the circumstances.
Damn you Circumstances. But I believe it is not what it is.
The real reason behind all your misery is not your confusion and perception of being superior but it is your intelligence. Yup, you heard it right. Your very intelligence. And moreover, your acknowledgement of the fact is cause of your general failures and unhappiness.
In an interview with New York Times, Laszlo Bock, Senior Vice President of People Operations at Google shares that they don’t hire on the basis of one’s college grades or rather say IQ. Only because these scores can be deceptive. Bock explains, college grades can be deceptive because you get those grades in somewhat nurtured environment where you are expected to answer in accord to your teacher’s perception and is somewhat iterated irrelevant times. But in real life things don’t work like that. For Google, they hire people with cognitive abilities and humble nature.
Cognitive abilities and humility in nature means people who are willing to learn anything new, something that they are not accustomed to, and process that information on the fly. And people, those who are humble in their nature, enough to recognize their weakness and embrace new ideas. Don’t be a hindrance to any kind of new information, only because of what they have learned in their college doesn’t actually mean that.
In reality, why people struggle in their life is not because of their intelligence but their perceived notions and not embracing anything new. Because they see the world from the reference of their fixed knowledge, and where the world has already changed its position.
So don’t be a wise fool (Padha likha Gawaar), like my Nani used to say. Accept new things, embrace any new knowledge. Because only thing that hinder you from your pursuit of happiness is your intelligence.